Your safety and comfort are the most important qualities of any session with me. We are at our most vulnerable when we open our hearts and bodies to intimacy.
Before every session, I will discuss any boundaries you might have. During the session I will respect those boundaries absolutely. You may always offer additional guidance or boundaries during the course of a session. Note, however, that during the course of a session I will not accept a loosening of boundaries you established before the session: I do not want you to make a choice you might later regret simply because you were lost in the bliss of the moment.
With regard to my boundaries, the key principle to remember is that you undertake these sessions for your pleasure, and to explore your sexuality. I am not looking for any reciprocation in terms of receiving pleasure. In fact, for most services, it is important for you to keep your awareness on your own sensations rather than thinking about mine!
In fact, strong boundaries are essential to keeping this experience safe and healthy, both physically and emotionally. To that end, all working relationships begin with the following boundaries:
- No oral or penile sex—no fluid exchange;
- No mouth-to-mouth kissing;
- No romantic or sexual relationship outside the session;
These sessions are, moreover, specifically about the use of my hands and body in the tradition of full body sensual massage. Oral sex and penetrative sex that bring both parties into sexual union are powerful and pleasurable activities, but they complicate the emotional landscape, as does kissing. There is intimacy in the kinds of massage I offer, but I draw these limits for the protection of my heart and yours. As an added benefit, these boundaries create a safe and healthy environment for all parties!
As understanding of tantra and experience with energy create a deeper understanding of the particular features of sacred sexuality and sexual ritual, some boundaries are open for further discussion, but the deep energetic boundaries of the working relationship remain the same, with crystal clear intention around keeping your body, heart, and soul safe and healthy. It is important to understand that my first intention is to keep you, myself, and my wife Pandora safe in all regards.